Whenever I meet people, I always offer them advice immediately. Because that's my goal in life: to help others.
Sometimes people are put off by my advice and think I'm out for some type of personal gain. That couldn't be further from the truth. So I try remind them over and over that I only want the best for them as I see it.
It doesn't help their life - or mine - if they keep telling me how they want to do things. That's not part of my life plan for them. If they want my help, and even if they don't, then it's crucial they listen to what I have to say.
Sometimes my truth is hard to digest. I might suggest something that seems outside of their comfort zone or requires too much effort or doesn't seemingly relate to their life in any way. It might even seem like it relates more to my own needs and desires.
But that couldn't be further from the truth. I remind them of what I said when we first started working together, "I only want the best for you as I see it."
Sometimes they tell me, "We're not actually working together." I tell them, "We are working together, this is our work, and you're making tremendous strides. If only you'd do what I'm suggesting you'd find a happiness only I have known because it's what I do for myself and I presume that what I do for myself will be what others want, and when I'm presuming I stand in my truth and it hasn't failed me yet."
I say all of that to them. They tell me, "We just met at this party and I told you I was thinking about maybe looking for a new job and now you're giving me a whole life plan."
Sometimes my friends tell me, "You're not listening to what I'm saying, you're trying to mold me into something I'm not."
I say to them what I always say, "I only want the best for you as I see it." And they say, "Yeah, as you see it. That's not what I see for myself."
And I say to them, "What I see for you is what you should be seeing for yourself but are unable to because of the problems you experience in life. Because I don't have problems like you do I can clearly see what you need to do, and the good news for you is that what I think you should do comes from a place of love that only wants the best for you."
"As you see it," they say to me. And I say, "Of course as I see it. You think I'm going to see it as you see it? You're the one with the problems."